“What in the hell am I doing?!” “Why did I even come in this room?” “Where is my phone!?” “Why are your shoes in the middle of the hallway?” “Now what are you eating?!”
How many times a day does one of these questions cross your mind…or cross over your lips?! Because if you’re anything like me, probably about seventy five seems like a good estimate…
You’re just trying to keep all the things in order, survive on minimal sleep without bags the size of Texas under your eyes, keep your kids alive (okay, and thriving ((Whatever that means)), be a boss babe on the job, cook a balanced meal (balanced is a bowl of cereal with milk and some fruit, right?!), do the laundry –DOES IT EVER FREAKING END?!, manage to keep the house from looking like an episode of Hoarders, give your partner the love and attention they need, feed the pets, AND take care of your own needs (and some wants would be good now and then, too)… how in the hell do you manage to do it all and be a good mom?!
Wait a minute… let’s back up. What even is a “good” mom? Because it seems pretty damn subjective to me… Are you a “good” mom if you go to work every day and set an example for what it’s like to balance a career and a family? (I mean, those are the rights our ancestors fought for! –Thanks a-freaking-lot for that, Eloise. I could stand to stay at home and be the woman of the house for a while.. [joking…I think]). Are you a “good” mom if you stay home, pack the lunches, do the school drop off and pick up things (there HAS to be a better system for all that madness…), attend the class parties, help with homework, have dinner on the table and do bedtime stories each night? Are you a good mom if you discipline? Are you a good mom if you are ‘friends’ with your kids? Are you a good mom if you make them eat their vegetables? Are you a good mom if you let them pick out their clothes, regardless of whatever that disaster may be? (sweatpants, a tutu, and a ball cap, okay, here we go!)… Are you a good mom if you give 110% to your kids every day? I mean, what really makes you a “good” mom?!
Guess what… THERE IS NO PERFECT ANSWER! And that’s okay! You have to be the mom that is “good” for your kid(s). Maybe today that means you work an extra 2 hours because there is a deadline that you can’t miss. Maybe that means you skip story time because you HAVE to do one more edit before you send in the project. Maybe that means your son has to learn a little independence and brush his teeth and snuggle up without mom for a few minutes until you have finished the dishes and can tuck him in and kiss his little cheeks, still warm from the before bed playtime. Are these bad things?! Nope.. they are REAL LIFE things. And the world will keep on turning!
Let me just boil this down to the basics… I’ve created this blog to vent and type and share all the things. Because I need an outlet! Because I know that somewhere in the world right at this very moment, there is a momma out there who is questioning every move she made today and wondering if she did everything she could to be the best mom to her littles. And the answer is Y E S. 100%, yes! Some days are exhausting. Some days are overwhelming. Some days are wonderful. Some days are a little bit of everything. We’re going to talk about mom life, wife life, work life, hobbies, books, money, vacations, dogs, cats, the weather, music, sports, whatever. A little bit of everything because that’s who I am and what I do.
You matter, momma!
xoxo 🖤
