Postpartum Must-Haves: What’s inside My Postpartum Recovery Basket

It seems like the first thing we do when we are expecting is prepared for the new baby we will soon snuggle in our arms. We gather up things for our hospital bag and collect tiny baby essentials we will soon need. It took me three pregnancies to realize that I never stopped to think about myself, recovery and the after birth must-haves.  I don’t think I truly prepared for my recovery like I did this time around, or maybe because no one really talks about the unglamorous reality of postpartum recovery.

Maybe because of our excitement of soon meeting our new baby that we forget about ourselves. Something very important I learned throughout my previous pregnancies is, preparation is the key to a quick recovery and transition. If you have things on hand for the post-op period, you’ll breeze through it, I promise. Your recovery should be about feeling comfortable and slowing getting healthy again. Not about fitting into your skinny jeans right away, be patient and caring to your body. Trust me you will have plenty of time for that later.

What essential products do you need for a post-partum recovery?

+ Belly Binding 

I’m a firm believer of belly binding after giving birth and the benefits it provides. After you give birth, your midsection is deflated, and it takes a while for the abdominal muscles to regain strength and return to its normal size quicker.

You will specially need one if you had a c-section delivery (like me), they add great incision support and help recovery immensely. Wearing a girdle or belly band can relieve lower back and muscle pain. It can also help with posture and repair diastasis recti, which can occur from the uterus growing and stretching out the abdominal muscles. I’m currently wearing a Bellefit Corset and I’m obsessed, the support it provides is incredible I plan to wear it for 30 days, I will provide an update on a separate blog post here on my site. The Bellefit Corset helps new moms recover their belly after giving birth. Made with Medical-grade & Hypoallergenic Fabric, this Corset provides support and compression to help moms have a faster postpartum recovery.

There is a big difference between using a postpartum girdle and waist training, and I wouldn’t want you to confuse the two. Using a postpartum girdle is completely safe and it provides the support your body needs after giving birth to slowly get active again.

+ Sprays, Balms, Lotions and Salves

  • HYDRATING LOTION – Jergens Skin Firming Lotion, the formula features a unique illuminating HYDRALUCENCE blend, Collagen, and Elastin. Improves skin’s resiliency, elasticity, and firmness. It also relieves dryness and replenishes moisture to improve skin’s tone, texture, and luminosity.
  • LIP BALM –  Day and Night
  • ALOE VERA – Apply aloe vera all over your stomach and breast to hydrate your skin.
  • LANOLIN – Nipple cream for breastfeeding provides safe and effective relief for sore nipples

+ Stool Softener

The scariest thing for me after delivering my boys has been passing the first bowel movement, TMI I know but its the truth. This was my third c section and my biggest fears after delivery have been passing gas/bowel movement, sneezing, coughing, or feeling menstrual cramps. Right after surgery you feel like your insides will fall out with the slightest movement. If you had a c section before, then you know exactly what I’m talking about, even laughing hurts. Ouch! I strongly recommend taking a stool softener to make that first bowel movement easier and less scary. Always make sure to ask your care provider before using.

+ Peppermint Tea 

It helps you increase your fluid intake and ease trapped gas to help with bloating and discomfort. Regular use of peppermint extract is known to reduce breast milk supply. However, you will only need a few doses to shift the trapped win

+ Ginger Tea

Perfect for indigestion, soothes pain, menstrual cramps, headaches and helps with bloating and inflammation. I’m currently drink 3x cups a day, one after each meal.

+ Peri Bottle

Use your peri bottle every time you use the restroom, keeping your self dry and clean is essential to avoid any infections or urine tract infections. You can get a fancy and purchase a Frida baby MomWasher, I just used the free bottle they gave me at the hospital, its free and gets the job done.

+ Disposable Underwear and Flushable Wipes

Instead of using the mesh underwear and adding a maxi pad like they tell you to do in the hospital I found using disposable underwear like Always Discreet Boutique Underwear a lot more comfortable and helpful. No matter how you deliver your baby, you will have a bloody show after giving birth for a few days, maybe 2 weeks. I used these for the first week, then switched to cotton high-waisted underwear and regular  liner pads.

+ Cotton Underwear / Boy Shorts

Big cotton underwear or boy short panties are essential after giving birth, if you have a c-section like myself you want to make sure you buy comfortable high-waisted underwear maybe with 25% spandex.

+ Hot/Cold pack 

Keep handy to relief back pain, if needed.

+ Nursing Bras and/Pads

Finding a nursing bra to me is simple, if it fits and you feel comfortable get it! Keep in mind that if you’re shopping before baby arrives, consider buying one or two sizes larger than usual, so you have one ready to wear after birth. Current nursing bras I’m loving.

The Mesh Trim Maternity Bralette

Wireless Full Coverage Nursing Bra

+ Pain Killers

Lastly, keep your pain killers close by, I tried my hardest to deal with the pain instead of reaching for pills. Keep in mind that taking too many pills can cause constipation.

Well there you have it, it truly hope this helps and if you have any question please feel free to email me mrsfriastorres@yahoo.com. 

with care,

Donna 

 

Mama & Little, the original on-trend teething jewelry! + Giveaway

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When I first had Sebastian I wasn’t quite sure how to soothe him when he first started teething, I think the only thing I used was oral baby gel and store-bought teething baby toys, which were a hassle because Sebastian would constantly drop them on the floor and then would want to put them back in his mouth, it became a pain to rinse and disinfect every five minutes. It was then, that I went online in search of a more practical teething option, something that would work not only to soothe my baby but something that would also make my life easier.

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I had seen some teething jewelry at Target, but I wasn’t too convinced because they were bulky, ugly and had the most hideous range of colors to choose from. One day as I was mindlessly strolling through Instagram, I came across a picture from Mama & Little and instantly I was blown away by how beautiful their teething jewelry is. It’s perfect to soothe and entertain baby, practical, affordable, super cute and stylish for mom to wear. Immediately I went ahead and purchased a teething necklace from their site, in hopes that our teething jewelry search was over.

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Arleene along with her husband, Hyrum and their son Archer, run Mama & Little, created after their son was born, Mama & Little is the original on-trend teething jewelry, and you can read more about their story here! What I love about Mama & Little is that is founded by real parents and moms of teething babes know how painful it is to watch your little babe in pain and not be able to make it go away. They also know that their little ones will grab just about anything within reach and start chomping. Fortunately, specially designed teething jewelry like MAMA & LITTLE is made to wear by mama and be gummed by little mouths. Made from 100 percent food-grade silicone teething necklace for mom (not intended for babies to wear!) and their signature hexagon shaped silicone teething beads promote tactile awareness and are perfect as a nursing necklace.

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Necklaces are approximately 14″ drop length with safety breakaway clasps and exposed cord around the neck to prevent hair from getting pulled, huge plus. Also, something I really like is that their teething jewelry is dishwasher safe on the top rack making this silicone baby teeter easy and convenient to clean. Mama & Little will become the perfect alternative baby teething toy that you’ll want to wear every day to soothe your teething baby, but way prettier hanging around your neck or wrist. Available in a rainbow of styles and colors. 

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They recently launched their first apparel items and I am obsessed with one of them, there ‘MAMA’ t-shirt. I’m a huge fan of this t-shirt its ultra comfortable, with a great stretch for day-to-day wearability. If you are on the hunt for the perfect T, your search for the ultimate basic mom T-shirt is officially over. This tee is soft enough for even the most sensitive skin. It’s available now and you can dress it down with your favorite jeans or dress it up any way you way! No matter how you wear it, it’s guaranteed to be soft and stylish to wear. I love this company so much I have partnered up with them to giveaway a $50 store credit to shop on their site, head over to my Instagram to enter!

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“The Wear Everywhere Jewelry For The Mama who does it all with style” – Mama & Little

with care,

Donna

 

I Am More Than Just A Mom.

“Your art is not about how many people like your work,  your art is about if your heart likes your work. It’s about if your soul likes your work, it’s about how honest you are with yourself and you must never trade honesty for relatability.” from ‘Milk and Honey’ 

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Lately, I have been feeling like I am drowning in life, with the kids, chores, endless to do’s and wife duties. I am having trouble finding the balance between everything that is currently on my plate. I have been feeling like I don’t have enough time for me, time to do the things I love to do. I love my boys, I love my husband and I love dedicating my entire life to them. I feel so blessed and I truly do love my life. But sometimes I wish time would sit still to be able to take off my mom hat just for a second and just sit there and breathe. Somedays I wake up to the smell of delicious pre-made coffee and other times I wake up to the smell of my roommate’s stinky overflowing dirty diaper. Some days are filled with rainbows and unicorns and other’s well, we simply stay in our PJs and just cry.

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The other day I meet this incredible woman at Michael’s who said to me, “Hey you’re mrsfriastorres from Instagram?” I turned around and said, “what?” She smiled and said “I love your blog and your Instagram posts. I love you as a woman, mother and human being. I love how much I can relate to you and I love how real you are with your words.” She then asked me, “What do you love doing most, like what sets your soul on fire aside from being a mom?” I completely choked and for the very first time, I felt like someone was actually interested in what I like to do and for the first time in a very long time I felt like my old self and I remember exactly why I created this space. CONTINUE READING!

“My greatest blessings call me Mom.”

Adjusting to a family of four has been extremely hard but who I think had the hardest time was Sebastian. It wasn’t that he didn’t love his baby brother, I think at first it was difficult because I don’t think he understood why out of the blue he now had to share everything in his life. I think the hardest part was having to share mommy and daddy’s time and attention. Sebastian used to have all of our attention all the time no matter what we were doing, we have always made sure Sebastian knew he was our main priority ALWAYS. Now our job is to make sure they equally know that.

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One day he told me “Mama why don’t you have time for me anymore?” I think I cried night after night after he told me that. I was determined to find a special easy way to make sure Sebastian felt loved. So “Sebastian and Mommy time” was born. CONTINUE READING!

I just drink coffee and pretend I know what I am doing, don’t you?

Hello and let me officially welcome you to my home and lifestyle blog “Dear Mom, I get it now.” My name is Donna Torres and I am here to tell you my story, to share my struggles and my wins. To hopefully inspire you in many ways, to fall in love with yourself before you find that special someone who not only is proud to have you but who will always work hard to keep you. To never stop dreaming, to never lose hope, to never stop until you have everything you deserve. Unconditional love, real support, true happiness, and find peace of mind. 4d9a1b907254927507fed0ce2f1e1c3b

I would be lying if I told you my life is perfect, or that getting here has been easy. I am lucky enough to have married such an amazing person. My husband Jose is the most selfless person I know. He would truly give it all up just for us. On January 25, 2014, he made me the luckiest women on earth. He didn’t just change my last name he truly changed my entire world. He gave me hope that real love does exist, real imperfect true unconditional love. I don’t think I give this man enough credit and I hope he truly knows how much he means to me. He gave me the best gift of all. The gift of being someone’s mother.Processed with VSCO with a6 preset

My husband and my two boys are the most important people in my life. I believe every child is special but these two are something else. My oldest is three years old and his name is Sebastian Rafael Torres. He truly can survive of milk, ice cream, popcorn, and Oreos, if I let him. He has the most voluminous big curly hair I have ever seen and the most precious little face. Sebastian loves many things, but who he loves most of all is his little brother, Maximiliano Cristian Torres. Max is ten months old and the only thing this kid loves is FOOD. He is pure joy and is always smiling. Max has the most delicious kisses in the world and we just can’t get enough of him around here. CONTINUE READING!